One of our society’s most cherished beliefs is if you try hard enough, you can achieve anything. We, as humans, cling to that life raft with the tenacity of a toddler with its blankie. If you find yourself quitting something (like trying to get pregnant) you may find yourself caught in the crossfire of your…
Infertility
Do You Have Kids?
Ahhh, yes. The question I often dread. I sometimes let it go with just a “no,” and move onto another subject. And it can be awkward. Parents don’t seem to know how to respond to my “no”. While I don’t necessarily think it is everyone’s business to know why we don’t have children, I occasionally…
A Leg Up
For a long time I toyed with the idea of writing a letter to family and friends explaining why I avoid baby showers and other heavily child-laden activities. My letter never got off the ground and then I stumbled on Angela’s An Open Apology to My Friends with Babies and I cheated. In other words, I pasted…
Taboo’s Silver Lining
Trauma and infertility, among others, are taboo subjects. You know, the ones that should only happen to other people during discussions in polite company. If you find yourself living a taboo, it can become a preoccupation, like the cold sore your tongue cannot help but exploring. I guarantee you won’t get many opportunities to feel…
I’m back!
After a long hiatus, I am excited to be back in the blogging saddle! Simply Not Conceivable now has a new look and a broader focus. I am including a copy of the text from the new About Me page below to elaborate on the blog game plan: “I am Ruby, a trauma and infertility/repeated miscarriage survivor, and I blog…
Mother’s Day
I regard Mother’s Day differently now. Along with giving my heartfelt thanks to my mother and mother-in-law for all they have done and do, I have designated it a day to honor my dream of being a mother. I imagine it is somewhat similar to how you might tenderly regard your wedding anniversary after your…
I am a Feminist
Yep, and I am proud to say it loud and clear. In a world right now, where there seems to be so much emphasis on pregnancy and motherhood (both rich parts of the female experience), my life has included other significant and meaningful parts of the female experience such has sexual harassment, infertility, and hysterectomy. …
Running on empty
I’ve finally caught up with myself enough to write a post. The lead-up to Christmas was incredibly hectic at work, only to then drive 400 miles to visit my sister and the rest of my family. Along some wonderful gifts and memorable moments, I also got a cold and a stomach bug for Christmas, so…
IT Happened Again!
The first time IT happened I chalked it up as an unfortunate anomaly. IT happened at work, and involved a man who knows me really well, but who I do not turn to for any real emotional support (we don’t have that kind of relationship). But, this time was different. I was with a group…
Warning Regarding “The Language of Flowers”
I am taking Mali’s lead in warning the community about the movie The Debt, and feel duty bound to warn others about a potential minefield in the book entitled The Language of Flowers, by Vanessa Diffenbaugh that I recommended in my last post, Still Stuck on the Thanksgiving Theme. Although, The Language of Flowers is a…